About infidelity
This page features therapists who focus on infidelity and relationship repair. You can browse listings below to compare therapists by approaches, credentials, languages, and experience.
Use the profiles to identify clinicians whose focus and style align with what you need, then read more about common therapy patterns and how online options work.
What to compare in entries
| Credentials | A US state licence, or membership of a professional body such as BACP or NCPS. They are different kinds of thing; each profile shows what was supplied. |
|---|---|
| Focus | Whether infidelity is listed as a main focus or among the wider list of areas. Entries show both. |
| Way of working | The approaches named on the entry. Two people working with the same concern can describe very different sessions. |
| Time in practice | Years in practice, as supplied. A fact to weigh, not a ranking. |
| Language | The languages sessions can be held in, where that matters to you. |
Common questions
How were these entries chosen?
Everyone listed on this page has infidelity among the areas they told the platform they work with. They are not ranked, rated or endorsed by this directory, and the order is not a recommendation.
Do I need a referral to start?
No. You can contact a therapist through their entry directly. A GP referral is not required for independent online therapy.
What if the first therapist is not right?
Changing therapist is normal and expected, and can be done at any point. One session is a small sample of how someone works.
Entries for infidelity
Savithri (Savi) Jayaweera, NCPS
Ref 151058
Compassionate counsellor for complex life challenges
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English, Hindi, Sinhala
View listingJoanne Maddison, BACP
Ref 276861
Compassionate counsellor blending insight and practical tools
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Grief, Parenting Languages: English
View listingJames French, BACP
Ref 203032
Practical support for anxiety and life transitions
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingTomasz Konieczny, BACP, NCPS
Ref 199992
Practical, compassionate online counselling
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Anger Languages: English, Polish
View listingMargaret Johnston, LMHC
Ref 62092
Calm listening that helps you move forward
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Grief Languages: English
View listingClement West, BACP
Ref 167549
Gentle, practical support for everyday challenges
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingDavid Potts, LCSW
Ref 23255
Practical, compassionate therapy for life changes
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Grief Languages: English
View listingNicola Claydon, NCPS
Ref 183763
Calm, practical support for complex life issues
Works with: Relationship, Trauma and abuse, Intimacy-related issues Languages: English
View listingPamela Benoit, NCPS, BACP
Ref 180577
Compassionate practical psychotherapy
Works with: Relationship, Self esteem, Career Languages: English
View listingRichard Gordon-Smith , NCPS
Ref 120083
Straightforward, experienced counsellor for complex issues
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Parenting Languages: English
View listingVictoria Postles, BACP
Ref 164179
Practical, person-led counselling for everyday struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Grief, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingDanielle Horn, LMSW
Ref 272733
Focused therapy that digs to the root
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingJemma Heath, NCPS
Ref 197911
Support for stress, relationships and confidence
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingWellington Cesar Assis Bueno, BACP
Ref 226813
Healing emotions, building clearer choices
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Trauma and abuse Languages: English, Portuguese
View listingAllysia Steward, LCSW
Ref 331970
Compassionate skills-based therapy for daily life
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Grief, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingRebecca "Becca" Mather, BACP
Ref 236007
Compassionate, practical support for life’s pressures
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Parenting Languages: English
View listingJoanne Rothery, NCPS
Ref 179003
Compassionate counsellor for stress and trauma
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingJennifer Lee Sylvester, LCSW
Ref 116075
Experienced LCSW offering respectful, practical care
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingSara Lowe, LPC
Ref 104527
Practical, compassionate therapy for life changes
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Self esteem, Depression Languages: English
View listingFrank Centonze, LPC
Ref 297421
Direct, practical counseling for emotional recovery
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingSherry Ramsey Hansen, LPC
Ref 352558
Collaborative counselor focused on practical progress
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingAdrian Jackson, BACP
Ref 271038
Compassionate counsellor using practical, person-focused methods
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship Languages: English
View listingDestiny York, LPC
Ref 340789
Compassionate, practical counseling for life changes
Works with: Addictions, LGBT, Relationship Languages: English
View listingSarah Anderson, NCPS
Ref 133882
Practical support for stress and life changes
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingCecile Terrelonge, BACP
Ref 134582
Person-centred counsellor offering practical support
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Family Languages: English
View listingMichael Witham, LPC
Ref 56161
Practical, person-focused counseling for daily struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Anger Languages: English
View listingStacey Tenbrink, LMHC, LPC
Ref 326268
Compassionate, practical therapy for life changes
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingJohn Swearengin, LPC
Ref 93490
Practical support for stress, addiction, and mood
Works with: Addictions, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingD. Jesse Bruesch, LPC
Ref 339826
Trauma-informed counselor focused on real change
Works with: LGBT, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingClaudia Santiago, LCSW
Ref 149793
Practical, collaborative therapy for everyday struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Grief Languages: English, Spanish
View listingWendi Hoag, LPC
Ref 261771
Seasoned counselor focused on relationships and mood
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Family Languages: English
View listingRogenna Robinson, LPC
Ref 105891
Calm, practical support for life transitions
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Grief, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingDr. Lisa Hammons, LPC
Ref 251179
Calm guidance for stress, relationships, and life change
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingAndrea Antrobus, BACP
Ref 121857
Warm counsellor blending practical therapy and listening
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Self esteem Languages: English
View listingRose Sanford, LPC
Ref 150546
Practical support for stress and relationship struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Family Languages: English
View listingMaria Wilson, LCSW
Ref 138055
Understanding, practical support for everyday struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Family Languages: English
View listingDr. Robert Nolan, LMHC
Ref 15781
Steady, practical counseling for real-life struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Bipolar Languages: English
View listingFaye Noyland, BACP
Ref 176481
Calm, practical counselling for everyday struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingKelley Sullivan, LCSW
Ref 526
Compassionate, practical therapy for real life struggles
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English, Spanish
View listingDr. Robert Hunt, LPC
Ref 187307
Experienced therapist for life changes and emotion work
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Relationship Languages: English
View listingPatrick Gribel, LMHC
Ref 348422
Therapist focused on depth and steady change
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Self esteem Languages: English, Portuguese
View listingSally Henderson, ACA, PACFA
Ref 224972
Compassionate trauma and addiction counsellor
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Relationship Languages: English
View listingLisa Spears, LPC
Ref 101050
Hopeful, practical counseling for life
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Family Languages: English
View listingChris Rottcher, NCPS
Ref 167547
Compassionate integrative counsellor for life challenges
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse Languages: English, Afrikaans
View listingJamie Finkelstein, LPC
Ref 16744
Compassionate counselor for practical change
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Trauma and abuse Languages: English
View listingCarlisle Bergquist, LCMFT
Ref 194649
Gentle, experienced therapist focused on relationships
Works with: Relationship, Family, Intimacy-related issues Languages: English
View listingDanielle Turner, LCPC
Ref 43399
Practical, compassionate therapy for everyday challenges
Works with: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Parenting Languages: English
View listingRani Sagar, BACP
Ref 180509
Gentle humanistic counselling for life changes
Works with: Relationship, Trauma and abuse, Grief Languages: English
View listingMore about infidelity
Understanding Infidelity and How It Affects People
What infidelity means and why it matters
Infidelity can take many forms - a single encounter, an ongoing affair, emotional intimacy outside the partnership, or digital interactions that breach agreed boundaries. Regardless of the specifics, infidelity often shakes the foundations of a relationship because it involves trust, expectations, and the meaning you attach to your partnership. When a boundary is crossed, you may find yourself questioning the relationship narrative you had built together, wondering about motives, or feeling unstable about the future.
Emotional and relational consequences you might notice
When infidelity occurs, people commonly report intense emotions such as anger, grief, shame, humiliation, or numbness. These reactions can present differently depending on your role - whether you were betrayed, were the one who betrayed, or are dealing with complex co-parenting arrangements. You may notice changes in sleep, appetite, concentration, sexual desire, or daily functioning. On a relational level, infidelity can amplify long-standing conflicts, interrupt communication patterns, and shift how you and your partner relate to safety and intimacy. Understanding these effects is a first step toward deciding whether you want therapy and what goals you would set.
Signs You Might Benefit from Therapy Focused on Infidelity
Indicators that professional support could help
You might consider therapy if the emotional impact of an affair is interfering with your ability to work, parent, or maintain relationships. If intrusive thoughts, avoidance behaviors, or constant checking of a partner's messages are becoming part of your daily routine, therapy can offer tools for managing those responses. You may also benefit from therapy if attempts to talk with your partner lead to repeated arguments, if you feel stuck in cycles of blame, or if you are unsure whether to stay in the relationship.
When therapy is useful for individuals and couples
Therapy can be a space for an individual to process what happened, to explore patterns that contributed to the situation, and to rebuild a sense of personal stability. For couples, therapy often focuses on addressing the betrayal's aftermath, improving communication, and clarifying expectations going forward. You may attend separately at times and together at others - many people find this combination helps each person be heard while also working on shared goals. If parenting, legal, or logistical concerns accompany the affair, a therapist can help you manage those topics without replacing legal or financial advice.
What to Expect in Therapy Sessions for Infidelity
Early sessions - assessment and goal setting
At the start of therapy, you and the clinician will typically review the history of the relationship, the nature of the infidelity, and immediate concerns such as safety or urgent decisions. The therapist will ask about your emotional and physical well-being, any support systems you have, and what you most want to change. From there, you will collaborate on goals - you might want to reduce anxiety, improve communication, make a decision about the relationship, or learn how to manage triggers. Clear goals help shape how sessions proceed.
Ongoing work - processing, skills, and repair
Therapy often involves a mixture of emotional processing, behavioral work, and practical skill building. You may spend time exploring feelings of betrayal and loss, learning communication techniques to express needs and boundaries, and practicing ways to rebuild trust gradually if you decide to stay together. Therapists may guide conversations about accountability, remorse, and steps to prevent repeated boundary violations. If you are the partner who breached trust, you may work on understanding the factors that led to that choice and on repairing harm. If you are the betrayed partner, you may focus on managing intrusive thoughts and reclaiming a sense of safety in day-to-day life.
Common Therapeutic Approaches Used for Infidelity
Relationship-focused models and individual therapies
Therapists working with infidelity often draw from relationship-focused models that emphasize interaction patterns, attachment styles, and emotional regulation. Some clinicians list approaches such as emotion-focused therapy or systemic couple therapies among their methods. Others bring individual-oriented tools like cognitive-behavioral techniques to help you manage anxiety, intrusive thinking, and depression symptoms that can accompany betrayal. Because infidelity affects both emotion and behavior, clinicians commonly integrate strategies that address both aspects.
Additional modalities you may encounter
Depending on the clinician, you might come across therapists who list narrative approaches, trauma-informed methods, or somatic-informed work among their approaches. Some clinicians include techniques that focus on eye movement desensitization or exposure strategies as part of broader therapy for people who find the event highly distressing. When reading profiles, note that a therapist listing a particular approach does not guarantee a formal certification - it signals that they use that method in their practice. Think about which approach feels most compatible with how you process emotions and make changes.
How Online Therapy Works for Infidelity and Choosing the Right Clinician
What online therapy looks like for this specialty
Online therapy can offer flexibility if meeting in-person feels difficult due to schedules, distance, or the desire for more privacy around appointment logistics. Sessions typically occur by video or phone and follow many of the same structures as in-person work - assessment, goal setting, and intervention. You should plan for a quiet, comfortable environment where you can speak openly, and you may use text-based messaging between sessions for scheduling and brief check-ins depending on the clinician's practices. If couples therapy is part of your plan, online sessions can bring both partners together even when they are in different locations, though some therapists suggest in-person visits for work that requires hands-on support.
Practical tips for selecting a therapist
When choosing a therapist for infidelity, consider several practical factors. Look at a clinician's professional credentials and how long they have worked with relationship issues. Review the approaches they list and think about whether you want someone who emphasizes emotion processing, behavioral skills, or systemic work. Check which languages they speak if that matters to your comfort and expression. Read profile summaries and clinician statements to gauge whether their tone and values resonate with you. It can also help to read about their experience with related issues like betrayal trauma, attachment concerns, or sexual health, while remembering that a therapist listing an approach does not imply formal certification in that approach.
Making the first contact
When you reach out to a therapist, you may want to ask about how they structure sessions for infidelity work, how they balance individual and couple time, and what they see as typical milestones in therapy. If you are seeking online sessions, ask about the platform they use and how they handle privacy for electronic communication. You do not need to disclose every detail in an initial message - a brief description of your main concerns and a question about how they work with similar issues is often sufficient to see whether you feel comfortable moving forward. Trust your instincts about whose tone and approach feel like a potential fit - a constructive therapeutic relationship is built on clarity, respect, and a sense that you can be heard as you navigate this difficult experience.